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Mental Health Struggles for the Digital Age

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Jul 15, 2025
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Life’s hardships? Stop romanticizing them as cruel overlords or random curses from the universe. That is bullshit and cowardice. They are not your master, they are your forge, red-hot and unyielding, waiting to hammer you into something unbreakable. Lost your job? Relationship imploded? Health crumbling? Good. That is the fire testing your mettle. But you? You are probably curled up, blaming the flames instead of stepping into them. Wake up: these aren’t punishments; they are invitations to evolve. Dodge them, and you stay weak, brittle, a victim in your own story. Embrace them, and you emerge scarred but steel-strong, laughing at the shit that once broke you.

And control? Oh, please. You don’t control the chaos, the economy crashing, people betraying you, and accidents blindsiding you like a freight train. That’s life, stop being so fragile. What you do control is pathetically simple yet monumentally hard: your actions, your will, your fucking responses. That means no more scrolling mindlessly when you should be grinding. No more snapping at loved ones because your ego is bruised in some way. No more “I’ll start tomorrow” lies that pile up like garbage bags in your soul. Every choice is yours, own it, or let it own you. Respond with fire, not whimpering, and watch how the world bends, even if just a little.

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